First: A big thank you and welcome to those who are reading, and for the comments.
Pleased to report that progress on the resolution front has been made.
The boss has given me a payrise!!!!!! Yay!!!!!! Not heaps, but more than I expected (I didn't put a figure on the request), and certainly a step in the right direction.
I have said NO, at least once this week, though from memory I ended up caving anyway. I have however, warned The Brat that NO is a word he should expect to hear more frequently.
Number 4 is on hold this week, as my underwear budget was instead spent on a new printer, which I can't get working, and 2 new fans, one of which doesn't work. Excellent, I hate shopping, and now I have to head back to the shops to a) get some tech support for my printer - I know what's wrong with it, I just can't fix it, maybe The Brat can help when he gets home in about half an hour - and b) to return the not working fan.
Number 5, what can I say. I had hoped to head to Melbourne next weekend for my man's birthday, unfortunately in the continued absence of a lotto win, the budget just couldn't stretch that far. Maybe if I hadn't bought new underwear over the last month or so, I mean it's not like I'll need it in Melbourne anyway right????? On the plus side Christmas is getting closer by the minute (Dear God did I just say plus side and Christmas in the same sentence?), and the Lover will be here for a week or so immediately following.
Number 6 - I actually used that argument in my request for a payrise. There are 2 of us in our little workplace, and both of us make mistakes, the difference being I can't issue consequences for his mistakes, while he can for mine. Unfortunately my mistakes tend to cause more consequences for the business, because I usually find his and fix them before any damage can be done. I pointed that out as well. Gently! Not sure why it worked, but I was quite proud of my achiement, as I have never held a job where some sort of annual remuneration increase was not automatic, even if it's just CPI.
Anywho, a little more positive this week, and determined to keep at it. The smokes are still my constant companion, I've stopped stressing about that, as it really doesn't help. I WILL get there, sooner rather than later I believe, and I am not beating myself up over this setback as I refuse to consider it a failure.